She Turned the World On with Her Smile

MTM2MTYzNjc0ODcxMDU4NTI5Yesterday the world lost one of my favorites, Mary Tyler Moore. I know it’s going to sound corny, but she really was one of my idols. I was too young to watch The Mary Tyler Moore Show when it originally aired on Saturday nights, but I remember my mom watching it. I always thought my mom looked a little bit like Mary – they had the same hairstyle, and they dressed alike. My mom 2 first introduction to Mary was in syndication. I was probably ten years old when I started to watch the re-runs and I quickly became obsessed

As I’ve written about on the blog a few times, the show inspired me and made me want to work in a newsroom like Mary Richards. I only applied to colleges that had Schools of Communications and ultimately decided on attending Loyola University in New Orleans, because they had a TV station. At the time, they had a broadcast campus news program. That was a big deal in 1987. I remember talking with fellow students and everyone wanted to be a broadcaster. Not me. I wanted to be an Executive Producer. As the story goes, I didn’t light the world up with my smile like she did. It’s a long story, but I eventually ended up in business school. I did, however circuitously, end up working in a newsroom – sort of. Okay, next to the newsroom. When I worked for Tuner Broadcasting, my office was in the CNN Center. Whenever I ate in the cafeteria, I got to walk past the newsroom. One wall of the newsroom was covered with huge windows and anyone who had a badge could pass by and watch. I used to stop and observe the interactions of the writers, producers, and anchors and wistfully think of what might have been, if I hadn’t been so easily intimidated in my youth. I also remember my first day on job. As I climbed the steps of the CNN center, felt quite spunky. I couldn’t stop smiling. Even though I was heading to the finance department, I felt like I had indeed made it after all.

Speaking of After All, it happens to be the title of Mary Tyler Moore’s first autobiography. I read it when I was in my twenties, and I enjoyed it. Mary has many sad stories, and in my mid-twenties, that was hard for me. Now I realize we all have many sad stories. I really appreciated her willingness to be so candid. She was a champion for those who suffer from diabetes, have lost a child, and those who’ve struggled with alcohol.

In addition to broadcasting dreams, Mary Richards inspired me with her single-girl-living-on-her-own image. I always wanted to live on my own. A lot of my friends didn’t share this desire with me, wanting to have roommates. Not me. As soon as I could afford it, I got my own place, just me. I had three single girl apartments, and can proudly say I made it on my own for four and a half years. It was cool.

I used to go back and forth as to which of Mary’s apartments I liked better. The cute cozy studio apartment in Phyllis’s home, or the high rise apartment, where Mary finally had a bedroom. I always wanted to live in a high-rise, but I never found the deluxe apartment in the sky (I know, different show). I did always have my own bedroom, although I would have killed for a sunken living room. When I was really young, I was enchanted with Rhoda’s little haven in the attic. I desperately wanted a beaded curtain in my bedroom, but alas another dream that never came true. Instead, I bought striped yarn, cut it up, and taped it to the ceiling of my bedroom, for a similar affect. It lasted until my brother tour it down in one of our adolescent battles.

During my twenties, I got to revisit The Mary Tyler Moore Show when Nick-at-Nite ran the reruns (along with those of the show Rhoda). I appreciated the show more the second time around. The writing is so smart and funny and relevant, even today. WOMEN SHOULD BE PAID THE SAME AS MEN. I’ve have seen every episode of the series. I can’t pick a favorite character. I love Mary, Lou, Murray, Ted, Suzanne, Phyllis, Rhoda, and Gordy (even though he was only on for one season). Okay, I admit, I wasn’t a fan of Georgette. My favorite episode was Chuckles the Clown. Like Mary, I have a habit of laughing hysterically at inopportune times. Often when crying would probably be a better reaction.

When I was in grad school, I lived with one of my best friends, Barbara, and her dad. I went to school during the day and worked nights waiting tables. When I came home from my shifts, I’d watch The Mary Tyler Moore Show and Barb would tease me. During this time, I had my heart broken. I mean really, really broken. I was devastated. All I wanted was time alone. One of the girls I worked with offered me her house for a weekend, because she and her husband were going out of town. I barely knew these people, but jumped at the chance. Once there, I realized that being alone with my tears wasn’t the best idea I’d ever had. I called Barb, crying, and she suggested I watch my favorite show. I turned on the TV, and guess what I found? A Mary Tyler Moore Show reunion. I grabbed a beer, sat down, and hung out with my friends for two hours. I cried some more, but they were happy tears, and I laughed a lot. I also felt inspired, because one of the topics the cast discussed was how Mary Richards never got married, but she was still happy and fulfilled. She didn’t need a man, so neither did I. I found solace in this and (yes this seems dramatic to me now) decided that I’d be okay. Eventually. Even if I never found love again or got married (dudes, I think was 23 at the time – drama), I’d be okay, because one day I’d have a good job. And I’d always had good friends. Always.

When I moved to Fort Lauderdale, I once again thought of my girl Mary. Fort Lauderdale was a big city for me at the time. I was moving there to go to graduate school, and my car was packed with almost everything I owned. I have a vivid memory of getting on the I95 North Ramp. I was driving east from Naples. The off-ramp was super high, and I was nervous. I mean I kept driving up, and up, and up. We didn’t have crazy interstate exchanges in little ole Naples. As I rounded the curve at the summit, I caught sight of  the Fort Lauderdale Skyline. And YES – I started signing the theme…

In 2012, Minneapolis was on our road trip itinerary. The kids had heard of the Mall of America, and that’s where they wanted to go. My motive in visiting the twin cities was to see all things Mary. I visited her statue in downtown Minneapolis, and I stalked the house where they shot the exteriors of her first apartment (in the Lindstrom house). I’d done my research, so I knew it was a private home – and that the owners did not appreciate fans of the show. There were no trespassing signs everywhere. I was very bad, and cannot reveal my tactics, but I got my pictures.



Every time I’ve moved on, from a job or a city, and there’ was a group good-bye, I’d always say something about how this reminds me of the last episode of The Mary Tyler Moore Show. And you know what? Everyone inevitably starts laughing and goes in for the big group hug. It gets me every time.


Rest in peace Mary Tyler Moore. Thank you for inspiring my dreams and my independence.

8 thoughts on “She Turned the World On with Her Smile”

  1. Aw, I was so saddened by this news, as well as I truly enjoyed Mary Tyler Moore in both The Mary Tyler Moore Show, as well as The Dick Van Dyke Show in reruns growing up. She will most definitely be missed and thank you for this beautiful tribute here, Allie. Hugs <3

  2. What a nice tribute Allie! While I always knew of the Mary Tyler Moore show and the ahead-of-her-time character she played, I never saw a single episode. But all of these moving tributes are making me want to go back and watch!

  3. This was so touching, Allie. I have never watched an episode of the MTM show – can you believe it? I was too young when it originally aired, and for some reason I never watched in syndication. But now I feel like I’m missing out – what wonderful memories you have of growing up with Mary Richards. Mary Tyler Moore would be so happy to know what a positive impact her character had on you.

  4. Wow.. that trip you took in 2012. I love this tribute. I’m not sure why she wasn’t more on my radar?
    I used to watch reruns every now and then, and I was captivated.

  5. We watched Mary Tyler Moore, Bob Newhart, and The Carol Burnett show EVERY SINGLE SATURDAY NIGHT when I was growing up. It was my FAVORITE night of the week. My sisters and I would eat junk food and snuggle up in the family room with our babysitter and oh- Fantasy Island came around that time too!

    Oh Allie, you brought back some incredible memories. I LOVE that MTM inspired you so much and I loved reading all your history laced with her as your role model. Such a beautiful tribute to an amazing woman!!

  6. Aw Allie! What an amazing tribute. I watched Bob Newhart religiously and only some of MTM but she was on there, and wow. She really was an amazing role model, for so many.
    We had a sunken living room growing up, and I never realized how much I missed it until I read this, about how you compared her places to one another.
    I’m impressed by your photos. And I, too, thought that I’d die alone after a heartbreak at 23.

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